Till Masks Fall Apart

Going Anonymous, and look for a blind hook ups through the internet sometimes is not good at all.

Dating sites is not popular in gay community in Hargeisa or Somaliland; So Facebook is the solution to meet others and get laid; And nobody is honest about their role, all are Tops, and always Versatile, no body claims being Bottom, all are in denial, its a stigma of gay men around the world.

Its always like this whenever i try to chat with someone on Facebook , when everyone is using Anonymous profiles with fake names to get men, fake appearance description, and for sure the age is false.

It was a long time since i met someone through internet, so i tried to hook up, and i met this man, we chatted for 2 days then decided to meet, he insisted to meet him directly for sex without date, or pre meeting or something; i was kind of scared because of thinking it might be an outing technique from a young boy "that's what i heard many times from different men i met abroad , about young curious guys in Hargeysa, who likes to meet men and get laid and then start blackmail them".

Made my mind, and called him, drove to the place he told me about, and i was shocked; The age number he told me was wrong, the appearance was different from what he mentioned, and i saw him before in many places as pious man. Nothing else was wrong, but i felt weird and something, and i stopped my self immediately from taking this step.

Went back to my car immediately with no word, i felt bad but didnt thought about it till later.

Thinking within my self, how many people like him are in disguise in the daylight, and when the sun goes down start chasing men, and the next day acts religious or pious; the whole city is in a denial.

I'm not an religious practicing person, but i dont act like i am.

Went to many parties, were girls and boys feels free and act different from their daily personality character.

Hypocrisy in its highest levels going on here. Its hard to see people being the victims of the system of older generation built for them. Young men acting like 30 to be accepted, female teenagers who wants to act like an older women to be a marriage material and be accepted from their community.

Being the way you like won't hurt anyone, you can be free from culture formula which looks based on religion and its always not!

I know its not an easy thing to except homosexuality in an east African country, but we hope that someday we will reach the level of acceptance.